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Young Sibling Rivalry
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
August 9th, 2018

Dear Therapist: Thank you for this forum. Our oldest, a boy of 6, thinks that he is in charge of everything. He is in charge of every game, every digging session, and every clean-up job. He will constantly dominate every interaction with his younger siblings (boy 4 & girl 2) and attempts to control them. If his commands are not adhered to, he will yell and threaten etc. He cannot tolerate his younger brother superseding him in any way: "you a …
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You Need to be in Therapy FOREVER!
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
August 13th, 2020

Dear Therapist: I have gone through a lot the past few months and after reading this column thought that it would be a good idea to see a therapist to help me deal with my issues. I thought it would be a simple process but when I contacted a respected local therapist, she told me that I would need to see her twice a week and she also recommended that my family go through a regimen of weekly therapy sessions. That’s quite a lot, not to menti …
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Wrong Therapist?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
September 26th, 2019

Dear Therapist: We recently acceded to our daughter’s request to begin seeing a psychologist weekly. This is related to some eating disorder and body image issues. Without going into the specifics we were given a bad recommendation by a friend as to which psychologist to send to. This psychologist clearly did not share our values and we believed she would not be appropriate for our impressionable teenage daughter. So we switched her to a di …
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Will My Therapist Report Me?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
June 11th, 2018

Dear Therapist: There is a specific issue that I have been holding in for a long time. I understand that it is something that is very serious and needs to be discussed with a therapist. The issue is that it is a very serious thing that I am worried will need to be brought to the attention of the authorities. This is something I don’t want to happen. So, I am stuck, not getting the help that I need. Obviously, I can’t be specific …
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Will I Always Have Anxiety?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
February 7th, 2019

Dear Therapist: I am 46 and have been living with anxiety my entire life. Every few years I go back to therapy for a while until I start feeling better. Then I stop with my therapist and it gets me through a year or two then it gets bad again and I wind up back in therapy again. I tried medication for a while a few years back but the side effects weren't really worth it. I have done 2 rounds of CBT where I analyzed my thinking patterns and how th …
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Why is Camp Scaring My Child?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
September 26th, 2019

Dear Therapist: What is it with camps scaring the wits out of kids. How come all the scary plays, Holocaust stories, and color war breakouts. Granted my kids are a bit sensitive but do I need to have them come home from day camp all terrorized? Are these things appropriate? Are my kids just wimps? Can these types of things negatively impact kids?   Response:              & …
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Why Doesn't My Daughter Want to go to Camp?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
May 19th, 2021

Dear Therapist: My 13-year-old daughter is an intense child. She puts a lot of pressure of herself academically and school is a big deal for her. All of her friends are going to (overnight) camp this summer and initially she had us register her as well. She is now insisting that she wants to stay home for the summer and "relax." She says she works hard all year, and she just wants a chance to have nothing to do. It is interesting that it doe …
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Why Do I Always PANIC?!?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 15th, 2022

Dear Therapist: I have always been jealous of those who are able to keep calm when everything around them is in crisis. There are some people who it seems no matter what is going on around them are able to keep cool, stay rational, and make sound decisions. I always tend to panic and do exactly the wrong thing. Is this just a personality type that you are born with or is this something you can develop? If it is something you can really become goo …
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Why Can't I Be Happy?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
November 18th, 2021

Dear Therapist: I am not a happy person. Is there a way to change that? That is honestly my whole question. I am pretty much fine in every way, I have a good husband, healthy...kids, a decent job, we have decent...[lifestyle]...are part of a nice...[community]...etc.. Yes, I have the stresses of every...family but nothing major. With all that said I am a pretty moody and cynical person. If I am being fully honest, I always have been. I sometimes …
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Who is a Narcissist?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
October 23rd, 2020

Dear Therapist: I find the letters and responses to the Couch very informative. Would it be possible for the panelists to share advice on how to detect narcissistic behaviors? I had an awful experience with a narcissistic individual and tried so hard to make it work. However, if I would have been aware of the classic signs of narcissists, I would have realized early on that it would not work. Narcissists are very charismatic people that are  …
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Where Is My Son's Anger Coming From?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
December 26th, 2019

Dear Therapist: Hi. We'd like your guidance regarding a challenging aspect of our 15 year old son. Our son...[is]...intelligent, articulate, and good-looking. He's musical, writes incredible stories and has a sense of humor. The challenge: he doesn't know how to properly regulate frustration/unmet expectations/dealing with things he disagrees with. When he gets upset, he has no control over what he says. If something ticks him off, he'll rant and …
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What's the Therapy Process?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
November 18th, 2021

Dear Therapist: Our daughter experienced a significant trauma when she was in seminary last year. It had been suggested a few times, both by her school and once she came home, that she go for treatment. For whatever reason she refused. She now approached us that she would like to speak to someone about what she experienced and saw. We read this column regularly and would like to hear your recommendation regarding what is the best type of approach …
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What is Happiness?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 27th, 2019

Dear Therapist: I wonder if the esteemed panel can elaborate a bit on "happiness." There is so much attention today being paid to being happy. It is even enshrined in the declaration of independence as a right. I sometimes wonder if the fact that people chase happiness, which can be so elusive, actually makes them more miserable. As therapists...I was hoping you could share your thoughts on happiness...and the path towards it.   Response: Ha …
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Waking Up to Anxiety
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
November 18th, 2021

Dear Therapist: I am someone who has occasionally had trouble with my moods. I have gotten help in the past with anxiety and depression. While I am currently doing really well, I still have a rough time in the morning. I wake up with a lot of anxiety and it takes time for me to get out of bed. Once I get out of bed I generally do ok and have a good day. There are no noticeable "triggers” for me in the morning so there is no obvious reason t …
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Unlicensed "Therapist"
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
February 7th, 2019

Dear Therapist: My sister-in-law sees an unlicensed therapist. This concerns me and I asked my sister-in-law about it who assured me that the therapist has very solid training and good results and she is happy with her. This doesn't sound right or ethical to me, but I am not sure what to do, if anything. I would appreciate the thoughts of the panel members.   Response: Generally speaking, it’s not ethical for someone who is unlicensed …
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Traumatic Therapy
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
May 16th, 2019

Dear Therapist: A few years ago, I went to a therapist to deal with something very difficult going on in my life.  Instead of validating my pain and letting me share my feelings in a non-judgmental environment, my therapist hurt me deeply.  She said things that damaged my self-esteem more than anyone in my life had ever done.  You might say that she was trying to help me grow?  There is a way to say things to someone.  Th …
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Threatening Dad
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 31st, 2020

Dear Therapist: I have a few small children, the oldest of whom is six years old, who can be quite difficult. My husband often threatens them, jokingly, with all sorts of physical punishments for their behavior, some mild and others outrageous. He says it is a harmless way to let off some of his stress. I am concerned about the effects of this on their psychological development. I know how literal little kids are, and I see the expressions on the …
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Therapist Vs. Psychiatrist
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
February 7th, 2019

Dear Therapist: My wife has been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. She has been seeing a therapist who has been treating her using cognitive behavioral therapy. She has not made that much improvement and our family doctor suggested she see a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist is recommending that she take medication to help with this. However, her therapist is strongly discouraging taking medication and is adamant that she has the strength withi …
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The True Basis for Self-Esteem
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
May 14th, 2013

What is self-esteem? This elusive term is often bandied about by professionals and laymen alike. "I have no self-esteem," "You need to build your self-esteem," and "My self-esteem took a hit" have become common phrases. Building self-esteem has, in many ways, become the mantra of contemporary society. It is often a concern of parents, educators, mental health and other professionals. Yet, what does it really mean? Many parents view their children …
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The Mental Health Impact of COVID-19
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
August 13th, 2020

Dear Therapist: There has been a lot of talk on the risk/reward of opening the economy vs continuing the quarantine. There has been a lot of mention of the significant mental health issues that could arise both directly from extended quarantine as well as from the economic impact that maintaining the shutdown has on people’s finances. While you may not be public health experts or epidemiologists, I was hoping you could share your educated o …
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The Mental Health Impact of COVID
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 1st, 2021

Dear Therapist: I have heard that COVID-19 illness can have effects on mental health. Based on your knowledge and experience is there any truth to this? If yes, how can someone prevent and/or deal with this appropriately?    Response: Your question is a bit unclear. I don’t know whether you are referring to possible physical side effects that can medically adversely affect the brain, or if you are referring to the psychological ef …
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The Condescending Therapist
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
June 14th, 2018

Dear Therapist: I am a 19-year-old...I have tremendous emotional difficulties: anxiety, panic attacks, obsessive looping, and depression. I also struggle with trauma and an unhealthy childhood. While I was skeptical of therapy, I decided to give it a try. I saw a highly recommended therapist for 8 months and found it to be a disappointing experience.  While it helped me gain clarity about myself and a brilliant understanding of mindfulness, …
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Teenage Smoking and Confidentiality
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
November 18th, 2021

Dear Therapist: Our 14-year-old son has been seeing a therapist for a few months on the advice of his yeshiva. Recently my husband discovered that he has started smoking. It was disappointing and confusing to us that our son told us that his therapist has known for a while that he was smoking. I am very disappointed that the therapist didn't deem this information important enough to share with us, his parents. I would like to hear your option on …
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Teenage Anorexia
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
July 18th, 2019

Dear Therapist: I am a sixteen-year-old girl, and I hope you can help me with my struggle.  I will go straight to the point.  I feel extremely uncomfortable in my skin; I feel very blown up and fat.  I know that maybe that's not how I look, but this is how I feel.  I badly want to be (super) thin.  My family thinks and says I am thin.  Whenever I go hungry I don't have this uncomfortable pit in my stomach.  Yet …
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Summer to School COVID Transition
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
October 23rd, 2020

Dear Therapist: As the school year hopefully begins, I am somewhat concerned about my elementary school children who have not been on a regular structure/schedule since Purim. I wonder if there is any advice you can give us on how to manage the transition back to normalcy? Or maybe it's nothing and the kids will bounce right back into it? Also, are there any signs we should look out for that would indicate an issue?   Response: I&r …
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Summer Camp and Homesickness
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
July 18th, 2019

Dear Therapist: Our 11-year-old son is going to sleepaway camp for the first time this summer. While he is excited about this he has always had difficulty adjusting to new situations and environments. Meaning he has a bit of an anxious personality. That being the case we are wondering if you have any advice as to how to "prevent" homesickness? What can we do to best prepare him for his first sleepaway experience? I also wonder what you think of m …
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Suicidal Ideation
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
November 18th, 2021

Dear Therapist: Something has been bothering me for a while and I finally feel like I need to reach out for advice. I have these thoughts that get stuck in my head and no matter what I do I can't seem to get rid of them. For example, I feel like I might do something dangerous and no matter what I do I can't shake that thought or feeling. I never actually do anything, but I am really worried that one day I might. There are a lot of things that I a …
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Success Story
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 31st, 2020

Dear Therapist: It can be sad to see all the different issues people are facing in the area of mental health. I wonder if...you could each share a short success story from your practice about how someone was able to reach their goals and enhance their lives?   Response: To preserve confidentiality, I cannot refer to specifics. However, I think that most therapists would agree that their successes tend to make all their work worthwhile. While …
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Stress or Anxiety?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
July 18th, 2019

Dear Therapist: A few months ago, I bought out my partner who I started my business with....things have gone better than I could have ever imagined. Recently, however, I have become very overwhelmed trying to stay on top of the growth of the company. I have mentioned to some friends and family how I have been feeling and I am met with a lot of flak for complaining about something that is a positive thing. I understand that, but the fact is that I …
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Stress and Insomnia
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
November 18th, 2021

Dear Therapist: I am 43 years old and consider myself a healthy person...Recently I began having trouble sleeping. Sometimes falling asleep, but also waking up in middle of the night and not being able to fall back asleep. My doctor said there is nothing wrong with me physically and it is stress related. We have indeed been having some difficulty with our teenage daughter recently. At this point I am winding up tired throughout the day and I stre …
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Son Misunderstood
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 31st, 2020

Dear Therapist: Our 20-year-old son insists that no one understands him. This is not in a bitter way; rather he seems to think that everything about him is so deep and complex that no matter how we respond he still thinks we don’t get it. We have been extremely patient with him and spent a lot of time listening and validating but, for whatever reason, he still thinks we just can’t understand him. He will give lengthy...talks …
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Social Anxiety at Work...at Work
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
May 19th, 2021

Dear Therapist: After multiple failures at work, I finally realize that my feelings of being intimidated by people and being anxious to speak my mind has been something that has gotten in my way all of my life. I wind up staying in my corner and not engaging or communicating with the people I am supposed to. The issue is that someone presented me with a great job opportunity which I accepted and will start next week. I really don't want to b …
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Should My Daughter Pay for Her Therapy?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
August 13th, 2020

Dear Therapist: A year ago, my 20-year-old daughter told me she wants to speak to psychologist because she’s feeling anxiety. She insisted on speaking only to the top and most expensive ones....We don’t have an extra dollar but I don’t let money get in the way of necessities and over the past year and a half shelled out over 10 grand. My daughter never had any trauma and she doesn’t discuss her problems with me. The psycho …
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Should I Stop my Meds?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
July 18th, 2019

Dear Therapist: I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder as a teenager and have been on medication since then. While I am doing well and have not had any episodes in a long time I have not been successful in work or in shidduchim [dating]. I feel that the medication stifles my personality and makes me less of who I really am. I have discussed this with my psychiatrist, but he just tries to push me off. I think I am ready to move off my medicati …
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Should I Hire an Addict?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 31st, 2020

Dear Therapist: Can you please share your opinion on whether it is possible to be "cured" from an addiction? If someone had an addiction and had treatment are they ok now or is this something they will struggle with for the rest of their lives? I ask specifically because it's...[with reference to]...a business partner who wants to come back in the business now but when he was struggling caused the business significant harm. He is a good friend an …
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Should All Children Express Emotion?
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
March 31st, 2020

Dear Therapist: What can I do to help my child express his emotions better? Most of my kids young and old don’t have any problems discussing issues, how they feel, or expressing emotion but my 8-year-old just doesn’t seem to have the vocabulary to describe how he feels. He seems to get “stuck” when it comes to emotions. Overall, he is a great kid who does well in school and with friends; it’s when it comes to things …
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Shiva House Etiquette
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
August 13th, 2020

Dear Therapist: A friend of mine who recently sat shiva made a comment to me about how some people were so helpful and supportive and others not so much. As professionals I was wondering if you could give your suggestions on how to properly be menachem avel [comfort mourners] and be supportive of those who have suffered a loss?   Response: Every person mourns differently. According to the Kübler-R …
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Sensitive Children
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
June 28th, 2018

Dear Therapist: My son is a very sensitive boy and every time I tell him “no” or reprimand him for something, as I would to any of my other children, he always looks deeply hurt. Should I treat him differently than, or the same as, my other children? I feel that in life he will have to deal with “no”s and not everything will go his way and people will tell him off. Am I correct in my judgment?   Response: Your questio …
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Sense Of Self Versus Self-Esteem
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
May 14th, 2013

Most people have a sense of self. This is different from self-esteem. Where the latter refers to someone's ability to recognize his intrinsic aspects and, through these, feel positively about himself, the former is often based simply on preconceived notions, without introspection, that tell a person something about who he is. Though the goal should be for sense of self and self-esteem to become synonymous, this is, for most people, a very difficu …
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Sense Of Self Versus Self-Esteem
Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW-R, QCSW, DCSW
May 14th, 2013

Most people have a sense of self. This is different from self-esteem. Where the latter refers to someone's ability to recognize his intrinsic aspects and, through these, feel positively about himself, the former is often based simply on preconceived notions, without introspection, that tell a person something about who he is. Though the goal should be for sense of self and self-esteem to become synonymous, this is, for most people, a very difficu …
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