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Do You Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse?
Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
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This is a blog directed toward people who may not have to deal with sexual abuse on a daily professional basis and think it is something that happens to someone else or are searching for what to do now they have experienced it. I also try to talk about possible alternatives to negative choices and different ways of addressing th
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse? 8 Ways to Take Care of Yourself After Sexual Abuse
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
January 18th, 2016

8 Ways to Care for Yourself After Sexual Abuse   What do you do after you have been through sexual abuse?  How do you pick up the pieces when you are not even sure where to find them?

1.Go to the doctor, your own doctor, rape crisis, if that is appropriate, the emergency room and/or whatever you feel comfortable doing.  If you are thinking about pursuing the matter with the police or in a court, call the police or 911 an …
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse? I Have a Past.
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
January 18th, 2016

Do you have "a past"?  I do.  Really, all of us do. Good, bad, or indifferent, we all have one. When we think about our past, sometimes we might smile, thinking about the things we did when we were young, or single, or didn't have children, or bills to pay. Or maybe you are still living" la vida loca".  If so, just make sure you don't hurt yourself, or others because some choices we make we can't take back.      …
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse? How Do You Know?
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
January 18th, 2016

What does a sexually abused child act like?  Can you spot one?  Can you tell by looking at your children?  Of course, the behavior changes depending on the person and situation, so it's not always easy.  You think.. "GREAT, just what I need."  I mean, most children today are jigsaw puzzles without all the pieces.  They don't even speak a language you recognize.  But take a deep breath, we can figure this out. &n …
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse? The Troub;e with Sexual Abuse.
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
January 18th, 2016

What does a sexually abused child act like?  Can you spot one?  Can you tell by looking at your children?  Of course, the behavior changes depending on the person and situation, so it's not always easy.  You think.. "GREAT, just what I need."  I mean, most children today are jigsaw puzzles without all the pieces.  They don't even speak a language you recognize.  But take a deep breath, we can figure this out. &n …
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Do We Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse? I Thought I Would Be OK.
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
January 18th, 2016

I thought I would be fine.  After all, I was a therapist.  I knew what to do.  I was ahead of most people.  I didn’t have a family but I had wonderful friends who met me at the hospital and let me stay with them for that week.  I was always the one who helped others and I was strong.  I had been on my own since I was 15 years old; I know my way around. I went right back to work. Staying in my apartment where it …
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse: I Want My Children to Listen to Adults
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
May 18th, 2015

 Do your children listen to adults?  Do I hear laughing?  I don't know about you, but in my family, we were taught to listen to adults.  If I did not, there would be big trouble, and I would be sorry I did not follow the rules of my family.  When I was young, children were not taught to do anything else and we grew up in a world in which all adults and authority figures deserved that trust, or at least we all believed th …
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Do We Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse: ACE Studies are Making News
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
May 18th, 2015

  Have you heard about the Adverse Childhood Effects study?  The initial phase of the ACE Study was conducted at Kaiser Permanente from 1995 to 1997. More than 17,000 participants completed a standardized physical examination to take part in the study.     Adverse Childhood Effects, as you might imagine, are the negative effects that come from trauma and abuse and affect a child's life in huge ways.  But the wor …
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse: ACE Studies Continue.
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
May 18th, 2015

 Over the past 20 years, rapid advances in neurobiology have revealed how childhood trauma directly affects the developing brain. These experiences modify the neurological, endocrine and immune systems. They activate stress hormones, initiate inflammatory processes, and change immune function, each of these are associated with developing chronic diseases in adults.           Researchers believe that we …
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Can We Fix Them?
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
February 16th, 2015

Do We Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse? Can We Fix Them?        We hear a lot of things about people who rape or sexually abuse victims.  And we hear a lot about them being sent to prison.  But do they ever get "cured"?  Can we trust them again?  Can they "get it out of their system, so they want to, well.. have sex like most of us want to have it?.
     What about the guy you mee …
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Happy Holidays and Watching Out for the Grinch
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
February 16th, 2015

It's the holidays!  There are parties, lots of fun, extra shopping, even more things to do than usual  Just what you need, you think.  But you jump right in, try to find a good babysitter for the kids and get some fun for yourself, a relief after spending all the extra money, listening to the kids saying, "Mommy, I want....."  Your husband expects you to be in charge of the tree, the decorations, and the kids' schedules, which …
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It Didn't Affect Me!!???
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
February 16th, 2015

    When you were young, you were a victim.  You may or may not have known it was wrong but the most important part was you didn't have any power.  The other person had the power.  You just wanted to be loved, whatever that took...you just didn't expect being loved would be like that.
     Time went on and it seemed to be less important.  It was something you put in the back, far away from the ev …
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Do We Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse?
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
February 6th, 2015

    We hear about it on the TV and read about it in the newspaper.  Sexual abuse!  "I know it happens", you think.  But is it something you have to think about in the regular world in the USA?  Is it something that everyone is aware of or does sexual abuse seem like something not in their day to day reality?
   This is one of the things I worry about, people not considering sexual abuse, rape, incest a …
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The Trouble With Sexual Abuse
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
February 6th, 2015

As a therapist who specializes in work with clients who have been sexually abused,  I have worked with clients whose lives have been forever altered from the trauma they have been through.  Until you live through, or work with this kind of life-changing event, (or events), you cannot imagine the impact.  It is something that makes the victim into another person.
    And my message here, even with all the gloom and do …
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Do We Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse? No One In My Life Would EVER Do That!
Author: Carolyn Wilson, LCSW
February 6th, 2015

 Most women have an active life, filled with people.  You may be married, you may have a boyfriend, or two, there are repairmen, neighbors, the handyman, the guy that cuts the grass, and more.  We are often so frantically busy we have difficulty getting to the bathroom.  You try to pay attention to everything you should. You have bills to pay and a boss to satisfy, and if you have children, it may all be a blur.     …
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